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Navigating a toxic work environment can feel like walking through a minefield. Each day presents new challenges, whether it’s dealing with difficult managers, uncooperative coworkers, or a culture that feels more like a battleground than a collaborative space.

However, maintaining your poise and dignity in such circumstances is not only possible but essential for your well-being and career advancement. Unfortunately, I can speak from experience, as a toxic and mentally abusive manager is the reason why I left my former career and the corporate world in general. At the time, it seemed impossible, but looking back, I can be proud of the way I handled myself, that I had the courage to leave, and the tenacity to turn a terrible situation into one that allowed my true dream career unfold (hint: this is it!).

While the specifics of why I left my corporate life at Google behind are not something I often share, I am often asked how to handle these types of situations with grace.

So today, I want to share with you my guide on how to stay poised in a toxic workplace while ensuring you take care of yourself and plan for a brighter future!

Staying Poised in a Toxic Workplace: Your Guide to Grace Under Pressure

Unfortunately, there may be a time in your career where you find yourself in a toxic environment. It could be because of a change in leadership, a change in company culture, or perhaps the new company you joined isn’t quite what you thought it would be. If you are in a situation like this now, have hope. Things do get better, but it’s up to you to be proactive and take charge of your future. Never confuse kindness with being a doormat! Here’s how to stay graceful under pressure.

• SET BOUNDARIES WITH GRACE: Setting boundaries is crucial in a toxic work environment. Boundaries communicate your limits and will protect your mental health. Here’s how to do it tactfully:

  • Identify your limits: Reflect on what behaviors are unacceptable to you. Is it gossiping, micromanaging, or unrealistic workload expectations? Write them down.

  • Communicate clearly: When a boundary is crossed, address it calmly and directly. For example, say, “I appreciate your input on this project, but I prefer to handle it independently to meet my deadlines.”

  • Practice assertiveness: Use “I” statements to express your feelings without placing blame. For instance, “I don’t find this conversation topic appropriate for the workplace. I’ll catch up with you later.”

• CULTIVATE SELF-CARE RITUALS: There are times when immediately moving on is impossible and the toxic work environment must be dealt with until you can move on to something or somewhere else. In this case, it’s important to cultivate self-care rituals to keep your spirits up and release stress outside of working hours. Prioritize activities that rejuvenate your spirit and enhance your well-being.

  • Create a personal sanctuary: Carve out a small space at your desk for items that bring you joy. Add a plant or treat yourself to fresh flowers, an inspiring quote or photo of your “why”, or even a calming essential oil diffuser (if you can’t plug in, wrist rollers are wonderful!)

  • Establish a routine: Begin and end your day with a calming ritual. This could be a few minutes of meditation, a walk during lunch, or journaling about your experiences. You can read my guide to more elegant mornings here.

  • Seek support: Connect with colleagues who share your values or seek mentorship from someone outside your immediate team. Sharing experiences can provide fresh perspective and emotional relief. However, do be careful about sharing too much information about sensitive issues you might be dealing with at the moment.

• MANAGE DIFFICULT INTERACTIONS WITH DIPLOMACY: When faced with challenging coworkers or managers, your approach can make a world of difference.

  • Stay professional: Maintain a calm demeanor, even in heated situations. Respond instead of reacting. If someone criticizes your, take a breath before responding. A simple, “Thank you for the feedback. I’ll consider that,” can defuse tension.

  • Focus on solutions: When problems arise, shift the conversation toward solutions. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, ask “What can we do differently next time?”

  • Keep communication open: Schedule regular check-ins with your manager to discuss progress and address concerns proactively. This approach shows initiative and helps you stay connected to your goals.

• DEVELOP YOUR EXIT STRATEGY WITH POISE: If the toxicity becomes unbearable, it’s time to plan your exit. This doesn’t mean burning bridges; rather, it’s about moving on with dignity.

  • Assess your options: Begin by researching potential job opportunities that align with your skills and values. Update your resume and LinkedIn profile regularly.

  • Network professionally: Attend industry events and reconnect with former colleagues. Networking can open new doors and provide insights into a healthier work culture. Not sure how to get started? Invest in a private 1:1 training to learn The Secrets to Networking Success.

  • Plan your departure: When you find a new opportunity, resign gracefully. Draft a professional resignation letter that expresses gratitude for the experience while maintaining your integrity.

• EMBRACE THE HIGH ROAD: In all your interactions, strive to embody good manners and etiquette. The way you conduct yourself in a toxic workplace can define your reputation and influence your future.

  • Practice gratitude: Even in challenging situations, find something to appreciate. This can shift your mindset and help you maintain a positive outlook.

  • Document everything: This, I cannot stress enough. Yes, it is extra work but it is incredibly important to document everything going on in the toxic workplace on a personal account (not your business account, which you could lose access to at any minute). Keep a detailed record of any inappropriate behavior or significant issues (for example, if you are scheduling check-ins with your manager and they cancel/no show every time, document it).

  • Leave with grace: When you do decide to move on, do so with a sense of closure. Thank your colleagues and leaders for the opportunity, and express your hope for their future success.

While a toxic work environment can test your strength and resolve, maintaining your poise is essential for your mental health and professional future.

By setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, managing interactions diplomatically, and planning your exit thoughtfully, you can navigate the challenges you are facing in your workplace with grace.

Remember, how you handle adversity speaks volumes about your character — so always choose the high road. Your career and peace of mind deserve nothing less!

Have you dealt with a toxic workplace in the past? What advice would you give someone in a similar situation? Share your thoughts in the comments below!