How To: Perfect Your Handshake and Make a Great First Impression

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What does your handshake communicate?

Historically a sign of peace between men, today the handshake is a near universal greeting of mutual respect.

According to The Illustrated Histories of Everyday Behavior, images of handshakes have been found in art dating back to 400 AD. The handshake has always been recognized as a symbol of peace, as it requires one to drop the weapon they might otherwise have been holding in their right hand.

There’s even evidence that handshakes have been used to confirm deals, establish political alliances and seal marriage agreements.

Over time, the handshake has evolved to a common everyday greeting and to this day signifies friendship, trust and respect.

The perfect handshake demonstrates confidence, openness and warmth. A bad handshake can communicate weakness and timidness. Either way, your handshake can make or break a great first impression!

When is the last time you thought about your handshake?

Like so many things, the way we shake hands is something we rarely actively think about. As the handshake is so universal, it’s something you may do out of habit and without thinking at all. Of course, anytime we stop putting in active effort and begin relying solely on habit and routine, sloppy mistakes can begin to creep in.

Taking the time to review your own handshake can help you improve this important gesture and help you take first meetings to the next level. Here are a few tips to remember:

• Extend your right hand as the other person is approaching to initiate the handshake.

• Find the web-to-web connection with the other person’s hand - use a firm grip and gentle squeeze to demonstrate confidence.

• As for length, two pumps is sufficient in a business setting while three is acceptable in a social setting.

• Remember to stand up, make eye contact and smile when shaking hands.

• Avoid shaking hands over a table or any other type of barrier that may be present.

• In a professional setting, opt for a handshake over a hug.

Remember, you only have up to seven seconds to make a great first impression!

While a great handshake has the power to seal a great first impression, it doesn’t start there.

It’s important to remember that often times, your first impression begins before you even meet. If the person knows your name ahead of time, such as for an interview, it’s likely that they are taking time to look you up online. How does your internet reputation live up to the impression you’ll leave IRL?

When meeting someone for the first time, it’s important to make sure you’re in a positive mindset, dressed appropriately for the occasion, practicing strong posture and making eye contact while speaking.

Remember, the person won’t usually remember every word you say, but they will remember how you made them feel.

As a handshake is often the first point of physical contact between two people, the way the handshake is received will ultimately leave a lasting impression. It’s up to you to make it a good one!

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